They say the path of true love never runs smoothly. That is never more bang on the mark when step-children are in the equation. Young children are affectionately called little monsters. But what about when they grow older? Yes, they become big monsters! But a step-parent never dare utter those words. A step-parent has to let a lot of stuff go right over their head.
‘You’re not my real father!’ is a favourite accusation when a heated teenage tantrum is in full swing. But equally that chippy teenager will seek out their step-father to hide behind if I’m on the warpath, verbal guns blazing. My children have rejected their step-father, loved their step-father, shouted at him, cried on his shoulder, pushed him away, and hugged him. Today they are spoiling him, and rightly so, with cards and presents. It’s their way of saying, ‘Thank you for being there for me when my own Dad isn’t.’
Johann Schiller said, 'It is not flesh and blood but the heart which makes us fathers and sons.'
So to all fathers and step-fathers out there – here’s to you! Happy Father’s Day. And if you are still struggling with ideas on what to buy your dad, have a last minute whip-round and purchase the ultimate gift. A Sat-Nav. Why? I’ll give you a clue: What are you never likely to hear your dad say? The answer is, ‘Good heavens, I do believe we’re lost. We must stop and ask for directions.’ And if funds don't quite stretch, instead buy him a pair of blue tights to wear under his underpants and simply tell him he's your super hero...